Rather than going into the fetishes themselves, I’m going to
get into something I noticed while doing research: That in 2017, there is an
actual medical term for fetishes and websites actually list “symptoms” and
“treatment.” What’s that term?
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The word is
“Partialism.”
Googling “Partialism” shows this definition: 1. an emphasis of sexual interest upon one part of the body. 2. a
form of fetishism in which the sexual stimulus is a part of the body, as
pictures of feet.
The Wikipedia entry says this:
The Wikipedia entry says this:
“Partialism is sexual
interest with an exclusive focus on a specific part of the body other than
the genitals.[1][2][3]
Partialism is categorized as a fetishistic
disorder in the DSM-5
of the American Psychiatric Association
only if it causes significant psychosocial distress for the person or has
detrimental effects on important areas of their life. In the DSM-IV, it was
considered a separate paraphilia (not
otherwise specified), but was merged into fetishistic disorder by the
DSM-5.[1]
Individuals with partialism sometimes describe the anatomy of interest to them
as having equal or greater erotic
attraction for them as do the genitals.”
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Lack of understanding.
Besides this ridiculous medical term, this blog is really about how a lack of understanding of what float's someone's boat can can cause people to label others with said fetishes or think there is something wrong with them.
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Lack of understanding.
Besides this ridiculous medical term, this blog is really about how a lack of understanding of what float's someone's boat can can cause people to label others with said fetishes or think there is something wrong with them.
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Now that we got that out of the way….
You may have heard of people with feet fetishes. I personally never understood it myself, but
you know what? Whatever floats their
boat, I don’t care. I don't label or think there is something wrong with them.
But thanks to headshrinks constantly “labeling” things, it
is now a stigma that having a fetish that turns you on is somehow a bad
thing. Newsflash: It isn’t.
Case in point? There
is a head coach in the National Football League that was revealed to have a
foot fetish. I mean, as long as it
wasn’t effecting his ability to coach there shouldn’t be an issue, right?
Apparently, not! As
ridiculous as it sounds, people poked fun at him and a couple of people
actually said his personal fetish was
grounds for dismissal.
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More like
misunderstood than problematic.
Regarding that football coach…. Why would people make fun of
him or call for him to be fired just for liking feet?
You can argue that in 2017, we still have this puritanical
view of the human body and anything related to sex in general.
But I have a different view: When someone doesn’t understand
someone else’s fetish or "boat float," it’s viewed to not be normal just because of that lack of understanding or "getting it" just because he does not have that same thing that floats his boat.
You can apply the same mentality towards things like food. Some
people love escargot or frog legs, others will not even go near them. In fact, people in the 2nd group
probably look at the first group and think “That is some strange shit to want
to eat that kind of stuff.” Simply put, because people in the 2nd
group don’t understand why the 1st
group likes those foods, they go to the most convenient label they can find:
That there has to be something wrong with them.
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I am going to reveal
a fetish that I have, something that floats my
boat….
The bare shoulder
tease.
Yep…. There, I said it.
It depends on the woman and the outfit she is wearing, but I find bare
shoulders incredibly sexy. It all
started when I was in high school. Don’t
ask me to explain how, it just happened (Well…. I'll explain later).
The reason why I call it “the bare shoulder tease” instead
of just a “bare shoulder fetish” is that it depends on how they’re bared, which brings to a question that you may be
thinking of asking:
“So you seriously get
a chubby when you see a girl wearing a strapless or off-the-shoulder
top/dress/whatever?”
Actually, no. Those
outfits 95% of the time take the fun out of it for me. To best describe this, it’s when a girl
starts off with a regular top/dress/shirt/whatever and turns it into an off-the-shoulder
version that really gets me, of course if she is wearing a bra those straps come off her shoulders too. Bonus points if she does the "bra trick" of taking off her bra while keeping her top fully on. I
eventually found out that if a girl goes further and converts it into a
strapless it’s even sexier to me. In the
case of a modeling shoot, if a model manages to do the “shampoo pose” while
it’s strapless and manages to get the garment to stay up and keep from “falling
out,” then whoa momma!
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Wait…. What?! That’s kind of weird! Can’t you just like boobs and be done with it?
One of the reasons why I never say anything about this to people is that I don’t want a label put on me. Like being called “weird,” for starters.
Yes, I consider myself a boob guy as well (But even then, I have my limits of what I think is attractive). So, with that out of the way, why is it “acceptable” for a man to like bustier women, but suddenly “not acceptable” for him to like bare shoulders depending on how they are bared?
One of the reasons why someone would say this is that the female breasts have been “sexualized” here in the United States. So therefore, if it’s sexualized, it’s considered okay to be turned on by it. Shoulders are usually not a sexualized part of the body, so that is why someone might want to “label” someone that is turned on by them. Because again, an outsider doesn’t understand why.
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What did your partner(s) think about your fetish?
The woman I last dated kind of figured it out on her own without me really having to tell her. Was she turned off? I don’t think so. In fact, she thought I was a “cheap date,” all she had to do was shoulder tease me and then turn her top strapless and she had me!
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Well, as long as you’re not going up to random girls, pulling their straps off and exposing their shoulders I guess you’re fine.
For anyone who actually wants to say this to me: I may be turned on by the shoulder / outfit tease, but I’m not a fucking pervert. What you are saying would be considered assault. That’s not me. I don’t go that far. I can’t believe I actually have to say that in response.
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Have you used the services of a fetish video producer? Come on, tell the truth....
To be truthful: YES. I have had some tease videos done for me, because it’s just a model “teasing” with her outfit and there’s no nudity involved they didn’t exactly break the bank for me.
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*Cue record scratching sound* If you are paying money to satisfy your fetish, that’s a problem and that’s why there is an official medical label on it.
Want to know why a good amount of adult performers are getting into the custom fetish video business? Because they quickly discovered that it’s a HUGE market.
People (Not just men) use it as an avenue to put a visual to their fetish without being judged, which you – dear reader - are doing when you start throwing labels at me. The custom fetish video market is big right now for that one reason alone.
There are other reasons too. Some might say, “Why don’t you just hire a local model to shoulder tease for you?” Well, let’s see…. Models have to get PAID. If you want to “aim high” the really “in demand” (Translation: very attractive) models can cost a lot of money. Secondly, you can’t just show up with a point-and-shoot camera, you have to have the good stuff. Third, if you don’t have any editing skills, who’s going to edit the video? It’s much cheaper just to pay a producer to do it. The other problem with hiring a model yourself is that she may not like that the fact that the person shooting the video is also the customer. When you go through a producer the model they hire is just going by a script that is handed to her. Big difference.
There is another reason: What if you’re single, or you have a significant other but she thinks your fetish is stupid and doesn’t want to do it? If you need to get a release to your particular niche, a fetish video producer doing a video for you may be the only way to go.
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Okay…. After those piece about fetish videos if people didn’t think you have a problem they will now!
If they think I have a “problem” than simply put, they can take their holier-than-thou, “let’s shove my view of morality into his face” attitude and stick it where the sun don’t shine and get the hell out of dodge! That is what I would tell them! They can do the same thing with their “labels” too!
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Fine…. So you like shoulders. But…. Why wait until now to reveal it and why do it on a blog that is viewable worldwide?
To be honest, for a while I was concerned about the things that people would think about me or things that people would say about me or to me. Like I wrote earlier, because many won’t or don’t understand it. However, there eventually comes a time when you just don’t give a shit about what people think about or say to you anymore. That is why I am making this blog.
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This fetish had to come from somewhere. Come on, tell us how this came about!
Okay, fine. It was when I was a teenager, like I wrote earlier. I was watching the Oscars post-awards coverage where they show the celebs walking the red carpet. 1998 to be exact. They showed a clip of Actress Minnie Driver in a red dress when it happened – what today’s kids call a “wardrobe malfunction.” One side slipped off her shoulder and if she didn’t catch it, her shoulder would not have been the only thing that was exposed! I loved that she managed to do it without showing too much. I thought that was one of the sexiest things I ever saw, and I was kind of bummed that she pulled the side back up (To be honest, I’m not surprised it happened as that dress was a wardrobe malfunction waiting to take place).
Then one day in high school, I began chatting with one of the new girls and I see that she’s wearing a thin-strap thank top. I don’t know how I got to ask this question but I asked, “If you were modeling for someone and he paid you a bunch of money to take your straps off your shoulder and that’s all would you do it?” She goes, “You mean like this?” and she does what I now call the “off-the-shoulder” tease right then and there. I told her, “You know that’s pretty hot.” As they say, "the rest is history...."
So there you have it – the story of where bare shoulder teasing floating my boat started. I didn’t choose this for myself. It chose me and that’s all I can really say.
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Conclusion….
I want to write a big conclusion here, but I’ll just leave it at this: You have every right to be puzzled at my “fetish” or “the thing that floats my boat.” You have every right to think I’m “weird” or whatever other label you want to put on me. You have every right to think my occasional use a fetish video producer means that I have a “problem.” You have every right to think so just because some headshrink somewhere decided to out of the blue create a medical category for it. Meanwhile that headshrink probably downs a bottle of Grey Goose or Johnny Walker after their day at the office is done.
That may be you. I will say this in response: I have every right to say that you just don’t “understand” or “get” my fetish, or as I like to call it, the thing that floats my boat. When you don’t “understand” or “get” something, it’s sometimes easier to put a label on someone than being open-minded.
In conclusion, the waters that float our boats may be different, but those vessels are the same. Different things may turn us on, but we are all one people. It’s time that we understand THAT.
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